Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Radhika Budhwar

I finally finished watching Dumb Drunk and Racist (not Dead, Drunk and Racist).  

During the credits, they listed the four Indian stars. I paused the program so I could do some stalking.

I love Internet stalking.

I found one absolute treasure.

One of the stars (Radhika Budhwar) has a blog about the show.  

I actually didn't know who she was at first, because when I watched the show I didn't really pay attention to the names.

It took a little reading to figure it out.

The blog is great.  Radhika is insightful and hilarious.

It's also a great reminder that reality TV is not entirely real.  I mean it's not necessarily fake.  But it's heavily edited and gives us only a tiny glimpse of a much bigger picture.

Radhika says: It moves so fast in the 1st episode I just saw! The tightest editing possible. 50k miles of experiences and footage condensed into a few minutes- the edit suite must be full of really determined talented scissor-hands. 

Radhika had adventures that were not shown in the program. For example, she did the shark dive thing.  And she had some lovely Chai tea moments at her hotel.  

The other thing that my brain knows, but often forgets when watching (I'm sure it's the same case with a lot of other people): the trip wasn't a five person thing. It wasn't just Joe, Amer, Mahima, and Gurmeet.  There was a crew.

On this post she has a photo. There are five extra people.  

There's the director, and other helpful people. 

It's one of those illusions of television.

I used to do a lot of video and editing back when Jack was young. I'm rarely in the videos, and it looks like I was hardly around.   

There was one video in particular.  We were in Florida. The three of us went to get breakfast at the hotel.  I edited the video later, and it ended up looking like a lovely father-son bonding time. It looks like the mom went off to get her nails done or something.  

In reality, I was totally there.  

Then there's the question of whether reality TV provides a true portrait of someone. 

I didn't dislike Radhika on the show, but I didn't particularly like her. She didn't really seem like my kind of person.

Her blogging personality is a totally different story. She's totally my type of person. She's adorable and hilarious.  I love her writing style.

Was this a case of bad editing? Or is it simply a case of different sides of one person's personality? 

I'm very different on my blog than I am offline.  The blog is more me.  I let my hair down. I'm more relaxed.  

I went through a stage where my offline me began to resemble my blogging me.   But that's died down a lot.  

I think the only person who gets a more true-to-form relaxed version of me is Jack.  ALTHOUGH.... that me is quite different from the blogging me. The blog gets the pour-my-heart-out version of Dina.  Jack gets the very-silly version of Dina.  Both of them are really me. It's not like one side is fake.   It's just different sides of me.

The rest of the offline people get a very tiny proportion of me.  I feel guilty about that sometimes, but they seem totally fine with it.  So I shouldn't feel guilt. At least not on their behalf.    I think they prefer another version of Dina: quiet, reserved, helpful, good listener....maybe somewhat mysterious. I get the feeling that they're not big fans of Blogger Dina. 

I wonder if people who read my blog on a regular basis would like offline Dina. Would they prefer that side of me?  Or would they dislike it?

I liked blogging Radhika better than the documentary Radhika. I wonder if other people felt the opposite. They night see the program and think she's adorable; then read her blog and become disappointed. 

For those of you who blog.....

Question:  Do you feel your blogging self is very similar to your offline self?   If you feel you're very different offline, do you wish that wasn't so? 

Who do you like better?  Your blogging self or offline self?