Sunday, June 7, 2015

Unrequited Love, Hypochondria, Gnomes, and Sperm Donors

1. Started watching an episode of The Saddle Club.

Veronica (Heli Simpson) is being especially awful right now—waving around her power and money.

2. Started watching an episode of Neighbours.

I feel bad for Daniel—being dumped by Amber and then pretending he didn't mind that she missed his event.

3. Thought about the rule against dating your friend's exes. On Neighbours, Amber (Jenna Rosenow) dumped Daniel (Tim Phillips). Meanwhile her best friend Imogen (Ariel Kaplan) has had a crush on him for awhile. Is it wrong for Imogen to try to get together with Daniel?

I don't think it is.

My feeling is if you are the one dumping, it's okay for your friend  make a move. If you were the one dumped, it's quite mean for your friend take your place.  Sometimes, though, love is meant to be, and we're compelled to follow our heart—even if it means breaking someone else's.  I just don't think there'd be much chance of the friendship happily continuing.

4. Intrigued by Sheila's  (Collete Mann) hypochondria  I tend to associate hypochondria with people who are healthy, but Sheila's recently had a heart attack. After coming home, she has chest pain and is taken back to the hospital. It turns out she has heartburn and is given antacids. Sheila is angry about this, and fears she's being misdiagnosed.

Now that I think of it makes a lot of sense. People who've had experiences with diagnosed illness are probably MORE likely to have hypochondriac moments. Something bad has happened to them once; why not again?

5. Liked Sheila's gnome collection.

  6. Started watching another episode of Neighbours.

7. Bothered that Imogen is lying to Daniel—saying she's not in love with him when she is. It's a bit conniving, because by saying she's not in love with him, he feels comfortable being around her.

But I have a feeling I'd do the same in that situation.

If I had a crush on someone, and I knew they didn't share my feelings; I think I'd either downplay my feelings or deny them all together.  This would probably especially be the case if the object of my affection was in love with my best friend.

Still, I feel admitting your true feelings—even if it means having to swallow your pride and back away—has much more integrity.

8. Googled lumberjack cake and looked at recipes, because Paul Robinson (Stefan Dennis) was given a slice on his birthday.

I'm getting the idea that it's a cake with apples.

9. Amazed that I'm married to a man that's close to Paul Robinson's age. Because when I watch the show, what I'm feeling is that I'm in the Amber, Imogen, Daniel, and Josh age group.  But in reality, I'm old enough to be the mother of those four.

10. Decided I sometimes feel like I'm in the same age group as Terese (Rebekah Elmaloglou) and Lauren (Kate Kendall). Those actresses are close to my age, so I'm not always age-delusional.

11. Saw that Imogen is reading Everything is Illuminated. I've heard of the book before, but I don't remember what it is.

12. Googled Everything is Illuminated. It's a novel by John Safran Foer.  I remember it now. I tried reading it. I think I liked it at first, but then it started getting on my nerves. So I quit.

13. Annoyed by Nate (Meyne Wyatt). I think he's being very selfish about the maybe-baby between Lucy (Melissa Bell) and Chris (James Mason).  Nate doesn't want children. He doesn't see fatherhood in his future. He's in a serious relationship with Chris who does want children. Chris has the chance to be a part-time father with Lucy. And it would be very part-time, because Chris lives in Melbourne, and Lucy and the child would live in New York City. It would be a long distance parenting thing.

Wouldn't it make sense, that since Nate isn't interested in being a father, he give his blessings to the Chris-Lucy baby?  How would it hurt him to be with a man who has a child in New York?

14. Tried to imagine how I'd feel if Tim offered to be the sperm donor for another woman's maybe-baby.  I think I'd be okay with it.  First of all, Tim has only one known genetic relative —our son. So it would be nice for him to have another. Second, I think it would be fun for Jack to have a half-sibling.

The only thing that would make me say no is if Tim had a financial obligation to the baby. I understand it does happen to families. A woman has to accept that her husband is going to be giving money to her stepson. Sometimes you have illegitimate children coming out of the woodwork. But I'm not sure I'd give my blessings to such a situation if it hadn't happened yet.

Now that's not to say I'd be against Tim buying the kid a birthday and Christmas gift. But I wouldn't be pleased with him supporting the child. I wouldn't want him paying for the child's private school education or his university tuition.

15. Figured most sperm donors aren't usually under financial obligation from the mother and child.

16. Continued to wonder why Nate has this problem with Chris being a father.