Narcissism and the Ableist Argument

Dear People Who Say It's Ableist to Complain about Narcissists,

If you're going to speak out against people, like me, speaking out against narcissism.  If you're going to say that's ableism and not fair to people suffering from their narcissism disorder....

Well, guess what then. I'll just say I suffer from narcissism-intolerance. So you are being ableist by not being sensitive to the fact that I've been hurt by narcissism and want to talk about all that shit.

Oh wait?

You're saying it's unethical to call someone a narcissist when we don't know their diagnosis?

No.

It's wrong for a person to diagnose someone with NPD (narcissism personality disorder) without a professional degree that allows them to do such things. 

But there is narcissism that exists outside the DSM-5.

Narcissism is not just a mental disorder.

It's also a noun and an adjective.

It's a way that we can describe someone who has certain shitty toxic traits.  

Do you know what else is in the DSM-5?

Pedophilic Disorder—The diagnosis for people who sexually desire children who have not yet entered puberty.

So, if a person is sexually abused as a child and calls out the abuser—calls the abuser a pedophile. Would you say that's ableist as well?

Would you insist that the pedophile gets the same type of compassion for their mental illness as someone who has depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety, OCD, and borderline personality disorder?

Now look. If you want to have sympathy and compassion for people officially diagnosed with things like NPD or pedophilia OR people that fit the description of words like narcissist and pedophile.....

That's very big-hearted of you.

But if you have more sympathy towards them than the people they've hurt?  If you call people ableist for wanting to talk about narcissistic warning signs?  If you shit on people who speak out about Trump's narcissism because it reminds them of the toxicity they've had to deal with from partners, parents, bosses, etc?

Well....

Maybe one day the DSM committee will come up with a disorder to describe those who think and feel the way you do. And then it will become ableist of me to be angry and disgusted with your ignorance.  But until then....

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