Friday, March 6, 2015

Abortion Episode of The Secret Life of Us

I just finished watching the abortion episode of The Secret Life of Us.  I thought it was beautifully done—sensitive, raw, and tear-jerking. I had several moments where I felt I could start sobbing.

My only grief with it is everyone acts so perfectly towards Alex (the one getting the abortion). Her friends are so gentle and nice. They say the right things before the decision is made, after the decision is made, and after the procedure. No one pressures her to have the abortion, and no one pressures her not to have it. They don't say anything to make her feel guilty.

Gabrielle takes Alex to the abortion clinic and waits for her there.

While she's there, Kelly changes Alex's sheets so she can have fresh clean ones when she gets home.

Evan makes a fancy pasta dish for Alex, and serves it to her in bed.

The sperm provider of the aborted fetus comes over to visit Alex and says very supportive and kind things. He had gotten her email about the pregnancy and abortion after the fact. He doesn't check his emails often, and he's apologetic about it.

Really. Everyone was so nice!

Does that really happen to people in real life?

Because when I've dealt with stressful situations, it seems there's always someone that says something really insensitive. There's often something said that makes me feel even worse about the situation. And there's going to be someone who makes me feel neglected. Or at least I'm going to think something along the lines, They REALLY don't get it, do they?

That being said, there are probably times where I'm the one who says the stupid and hurtful thing. Or I don't do enough to show that I care.


Though the world was kind to Alex during her abortion, there was one odd thing.  When she went to the clinic, the TV there was playing a cartoon. I thought that was somewhat insensitive. Why would you show cartoons at an abortion clinic. Now it might not have been a cartoon specifically geared towards children, but still. We associate cartoons with children. It almost seemed like a mind-game...get people to think about children and consider the fact that maybe they want to keep their baby.

I don't know. I'm probably reading too much into it.

So...what about you? Have you ever been in a really stressful situation? Did you feel most of your friends and family were supportive? Did they say and do the right things? Did anyone make you feel worse? Were there people who had the right intentions, but got it very wrong?